FALLING IN LOVE WITH REFLECTIONS

When we meet a person do we really meet the person that he is? I believe we simply meet the reflection of our own self in him. Have you ever met any body or just your own reflections? Your own interpretation. When you meet a person we immediately start interpreting that person. We start creating an image about him. That image is ours. The person is not important, what is important to us is just our image of that person. More and more the image becomes clear the person is forgotten. And then we live with this image. When we talk to that person we talk to our image of that person not to the person he is. Let us take your example. If I ask you tell me about your self? You will come up with your qualification, your work, your lively hood, your interests, your spiritual nature etc. Now ask the same question about your self to your parents, spouses, children, friends, associate. They all will have their own version of you.

When you meet a man or women and fall in love. Do you think you are falling in love with the other person? No, you are falling in love with the image that you have created around the other. And the other is also falling in love with the image that she or he has created around you. Whenever two person fall in love at least four person are there and then there is trouble. Because you never fall in love with the person, you fall in love with your own image. And he or she is not there to fulfill your image. Sooner or later the reality comes out. A conflict arises between your dream and the real, between your image and the real person, who is there absolutely unknown. And then there is clash. Every love affair shatters on the rock. Deeper the love intense the feeling sooner it shatters on the rock. It has to happen because two person fall in love with there own images. How can they be together? Those images will be always in between them and those images will be false. Real person is totally different. He is not your image and he is not there to fulfill your expectation, neither are you there to fulfill anybodies expectation. A real person is real, he has his own destiny. You have your own destiny. If you can walk together hand in hand for few moments on the path. So far so good. But you cannot expect that you do this and don’t do that. Once you start expecting you are bringing your image in. love is almost dead. What remains is a dead relation. That is why people get married so many times and divorce so many times. They seek true love which they never get because they do the same mistake of falling in love with the image that they have created of others.

To be in love is a totally different affair; it’s an affair of the heart. The conflicts of the images are there but there are few who have overcome all the odds. Who have found the real meaning of love, they have learned that to be in love is all about sharing, giving, understanding, and adjusting. They have learned to love the person as he or she is and not the image that they have of the other person. These are the people who don’t ‘fall in love’, but ‘rise in love’.

Open your eyes look around your self, look at people as they are and not as you want them to be, strip the image you have created about them. You will find a new world the real world. This world is full of happiness and possibilities. Welcome to this new world.